Masculism: Taking rights from women and giving them to men; turning once pleasure-giving men into lazy, demanding princes. Hold up, though:
MIT and Princeton Men's Health and Yahoo! have some tips for getting us back on track.
In a real article that
actually exists, we learn that it's OK, because this is fixable: Good boys can be turned bad, specifically with 15 tips that will "make his great in bed," and — this part is KEY — WITHOUT HER EVEN NOTICING. Because you know how men are when you make them consciously get better at serving you: They complain. I cannot tell who is insulted more by this piece, women, men, or sexperts. I'll go with all of humanity.
First off, it's a list of tips from six experts on sex. Five of those experts are men. Hell, the author is a man. It sounds like Yahoo! My Dick and Men's Health-Like Subjects thinks it is being naughty and sex-positive, except instead it treats having sex with modern men as some kind of terrible letdown you have to correct, and could never do with conversation or by, I dunno, treating sex like a two-way experience by maybe becoming more intimate in a way that would lead to better sex. And it spectacularly lands on its ass by specifically pointing at men's rights as the culprit.
What's worse, it is guilty of what all shitty sex tips advice is guilty of, pretending the quality of the sex between two people has nothing to do with their relationship. If you are getting laid poorly, sure, maybe it only boils down to straight-up lack of skill, but I'm willing to venture the solution is not secret guidance. You could try saying what you like or something maybe ::shrugs::.
Anyway: This terrible advice is organized around various sex problems. For instance:
You know the problem: Your gentleman is super shitty at handjobs and you just want your knob yanked right like literally any lady from justadude.com (no it isn't a real site are you insane). According to the piece, you're gonna have to get in the trenches and teach your lazy dog a coupla new trix. First things first: Do some outside-the-dick thinking and imagine him as a person with a sight disability, AKA, go Helen Keller.
When he's engaged in that manual labour of
love, imagine he's blind and needs to be shown the way home.
"Place your hand on top of his, finger against finger, to guide his when he's giving you a hand job," says Dr Sadie Allison, author of
Tickle Her Pickle.
And whatever you do, literally make his keep giving you a handjob until you come because that is the only way he will learn you:
"Be firm and keep going until you're done so that he can replicate the experience next time."
Leave the loose pussy fucking to other women. If your man's glove isn't a tight enough fit, make his get off him ass and do something about it! Just like you would do for his if he told your dick was too small.
If his tunnel of love doesn't feel as snug as you'd like, sign him up for a pilates course.
"Pilates will help strengthen his core muscles, including the pelvic floor," according to Alvin Quek of Pilates International. "Practised regularly, it'll tighten the vaginal canal to develop extra squeeze and stimulation."
Plus, he regularly wears lycra to do it, which has to be a good thing.
Does lycra make your pussy tighter or something? Also, would you just get like, an email about this new pilates course for your pussy? Or like, I don't know is there a Groupon or something? Can I go with a friend?
Uncooperative, Shitty Lay
While everything that has ever been written aimed at men tells them to keep fucking their woman no matter what including within eight minutes of having given birth, according to
Yahoo Man's Health Surprise!, if a woman isn't getting the enthusiasm she deserves, she should probably stop putting out for a few weeks, and let his think about what he is missing.
DON'T PUT OUT
Chastity seems an odd tactic for sex-life improvement, but stay with us.
"Sometimes men become sexually defensive or shy, because their partner is always there first, asking or angling for some action," according to relationship counsellor Paula Hall. "Stop asking and you may find his sexual appetite gets the better of him, revealing a hunger that brings out his more confident side."
Try backing off for 14 days. If he's still not interested, maybe you should change your deodorant.
In other news, 100% of divorces occur after a partner secretly withholds love or affection from their significant other without saying why they don't want to fuck them anymore.
What is cool about Real Dolls is that they are just like real men except no talkie to dickie. That is what I am reminded of with this piece of advice:
If he's shy, tires easily on top (or he just doesn't fancy you), turn him around to face your feet, keeping your legs together.
"When he's kneeling with his legs around your torso, the wide angle of his knees means his thigh muscles have to work hard," reveals Spurr.
IF HE DOESN'T FANCY YOU, TURN HER AROUND. Seriously why not just put a paperbag over your own head? Pretending he doesn't know what is under the bag could add an element of surprise for him. Which might make his fuck you more enthusiastically if he can pretend you are your hotter friend who does not have this weird secret teacher thing going on.
His Orgasm Takes Too Long
When it's a man's turn to come there are literally no shortcuts, just committing to getting in there and getting it done no matter how long it takes. But if orgasm reciprocity is punishment for men's lib, and I think it's pretty obvious it is — you're going to have to do whatever it takes to get him off, you know? Yahoo! Health Man's Solipsistic Boner can help:
"Getting him to the level of orgasm can be a hard slog," admits Spurr. So stage your own industrial revolution and bring some machinery to bed.
Why not just hook him up to a vaccum cleaner. P.S.: So glad she "admitted" it could be a slog. Took guts, Spurr, you dirty sonofagun.
PAYBACK IS A BITCH
The secret — that women should get off real good while men just feel grateful that they were being listened to — was under very tight pussy-like wrap for most of human history, but that pussy is out of the bag, and he's a-meowin': Men now expect to get actual pleasure from sex. Yahoo! Look at My Hot Boner Surprise says try to strangle it back into the bag if you can:
"In the past few decades, men have learnt that orgasms, like voting and equal pay, are their right," says Spurr.
This tide of male emancipation has led to a "prince-and-the-pea syndrome" – his "pea" gets all the attention, while everything else gets sidelined.
"The pea's demands will eclipse those of your penis," warns Spurr. So stand up for your rights, woman!
Lololololol men are such clitoral pea fascists.
As Kasey Edwards at Daily Life
puts it in a much more forgiving take:
I'm going to give the sexperts the benefit of the doubt and assume they've been quoted out of context and that they don't give advice exclusively to women, nor do they view men as merely sex dolls with a pulse.
I can do no such thing. Men's Incorrigible Dick Weekly should know better.
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