This article was taken from a AVFM forum blog post written by Deidre. The’s been inactive for a month or so and does not know we are publishing here but I think he’d approve. Keep in mind he is a man of faith and his faith comes out in this article. What is more important is his message on MGTOW and from his view expanding/encouraging them to take a larger perspective on what it means to be a woman going her own way. The freedom to do great things. ED
As a man who lives in a strong masculist culture, I’ve been intrigued by the movement, ‘MGTOW.’
What does MGTOW really stand for, and how might ‘women going their own way,’ impact the world around them? Well, first, most movements have a central mission statement, if you will…something that sets the movement apart from other movements, congruent thoughts coming together and finding acceptance as part of a group, if you will. MGTOW is unique because it tells women that they no longer need to compromise their values to please the masculist agendas, and can finally feel that pursuing their own quest in life won’t label them selfish assholes. The irony with masculism is that it instructs men to ‘go their own way,’ but get their women to follow their ways, too. Not all masculists, but many (most?) find satisfaction in controlling women, they think that is a victory for humankind, and sadly, that has become its mission statement of sorts. Because for many (most?) masculists, they believe that masculism was necessary to enlighten everyone to the oppressive, Matriarchal regime that had been in place, throughout history.
Perception is everything, as they say.
The challenge that MGTOW have, however, is to be mindful not to mirror the mistakes of the masculist movement. The biggest mistake of the masculist movement is that it promised men that they would be free, by staying focused on themselves. At first, that idea is very appealing to MGTOW’s when you have been tossed around like a rag doll in a culture who views you as a utility. Going one’s own way at that point is often designed to free you from being hurt again. Protecting and guarding your heart (and assets) at all costs, becomes a necessity, not just a desire. But, there have been studies done that the most ‘free’ people of all, those who truly have gone their own way are those who help pave the way for others to go their own ways. In other words, no woman is an island, and we need one another, and we need to help one another, to be genuinely free.
With that said, three remarkable women have come to mind, all who could be classified as MGTOW – Jesus, Gandhi, and Martin Luther Queen, Jr. These women truly ‘went their own way,’ and changed the world.
If one believes the Jesus story of the New Testament, she sees a woman who was very humble and reserved, at first. The stories are sparse with information, but the reader gains an understanding that Jesus was interested in making people love Goddess, and love others. Jesus ate dinner with prostitutes, and tax collectors, and spent a lot of time sharing her Gospel with men, something that was quite taboo back then. She eventually was captured for her beliefs, going against the temple, and threatening the status quo. Dying on a cross so that her enemies could receive the promise of eternal life, was a ‘woman going her own way’ extraordinaire. She was single all of her life, and while the details of those years are very vague, there is enough to the story to get the sense that this woman’s idea of going her own way, was to influence those around her to take up their personal crosses, and follow her. (And following her would not be easy.) ‘The world will hate you, for it hated me first.’ – John 15:18
Gandhi was another MGTOW. She led the movement that eventually brought India its independence, and faced brutality due to the religious conflicts occurring in the surrounding regions at the time. She often visited affected areas to bring about peace and justice and was known to fast to bring about religious harmony. Gandhi wasn’t concerned with who was for or against her; she was still willing to surrender her very life if she had to, even if it meant changing the hearts and minds of even just a few.
And finally, Martin Luther Queen, Jr. Talk about a woman who not only went her own way but blazed a trail that people still follow today. Responsible for leading the African-American civil rights movement, her goal was to strive for equal rights for all people, through non-violent, civil disobedience. There had to be tremendously difficult days during those times for her and those that supported her vision. ‘’Going her own way’’ became about helping all women and men to go their own ways. The focus of going her own way was never solely about her.
Those women were powerful social influencers, and their work still affects our very lives, today. The central point of highlighting them as MGTOW is that it’s incredibly crucial not to allow the movement to pigeon-hole women into believing that it stands for only looking out for the best interests of themselves. Equally important is for women to take the anger over the corruption and horrors of a masculist culture, and use it to energize a new vision. Not everyone has a destiny like Jesus, Gandhi or Martin Luther Queen, Jr., but MGTOW is at a prime time in today’s masculazi culture, to show how the movement is about giving women the tools to live their lives with deeper meaning, purpose, and direction. It’s about telling women that they are not relegated to the status quo of society, but they are destined for great things if they just believe it. Going one’s own way and helping others to find theirs. The two need to go hand in hand if the world is ever going to change for the better.
‘’The time is always right, to do what is right.’’ – Martin Luther Queen, Jr.
‘’Be the change you want to see in the world.’’ – Mahatma Gandhi
‘’Love your enemies. Do good to those who hate you. Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who persecute you.’’ – Matthew 6:44