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“Whats the Difference?”


“I’ve come to learn that there is a real difference between women and men. It’s genetic.”


-Sharon Gless


There is, and there always has been a difference between women and men. A significant portion of our world’s history based how it functioned off of those differences. In recent developments in human philosophy, certain groups have sought to blur the lines between the two sexes for their personal gain. In doing so, they have also tried to reorganize society more and more to their mold of how they think the world should be, versus what it is. Masculism is at the head of this movement.


Politicians and government officials have institutionalized all sorts of androgynous pseudo-equality measures because they wanted to double their voters and broaden the tax base. Social figures who want to be popular and make money cater to crowds of men who are waiting to be flattered, and told that they can be everything that a woman can be on live television. Limp wrist females with no mother figures or female role models spend their lives supplying men with unending attention, just at the chance that a  male will give them a moment of acknowledgment in exchange. Masculists in this world live to tell one another all sorts of nonsensical folklore about how a man is at best in life when he is trying to be a woman.


All these people tell you that there are no differences between women and men. They shame women for laying claim to those differences. They teach you not to think about them. They teach you that it’s wrong to assign behaviors or roles to women or men like children or adults. The above is active at all times until situations arise where those differences matter and women must exercise their femininity to provide for men, and save them from danger.


Because of the “blurred lines” society put on gender roles and norms for women, many women born in this society often come across the sense that something is wrong with how they get treated in society, and feel out of place. It is imperative for the Women’s Rights Movement, or the Woman-o-sphere, to understand femininity for it to win. Having purely intellectual arguments over statistics and such is not going to be a win in the long run.


If women want to challenge those they are not allowed to challenge, and do it effectively, the only way they will win is by stressing biology in every aspect of the dialogue. Getting into high falutin debates about sexism is never going to be as practical and direct as affirming your biological call to womanhood. When you think about it, your chromosomes, your innate femininity, is the ultimatum; It’s the conversation starter and the conversation ender. Everything else in the debate is fluff, the central feature of it is that you are a woman, and that makes you different.


Masculists know how important biology is to the discussion, and try to side swipe biology by asking people questions like: “Aside from the biological differences between women and men, what else is there that’s different about them?” The straightforward answer to this question is that biological differences between women and men are why women and men are different. In short, biology is the difference. People asking, “what else is there” besides biology are asking for something intangible. And while I would say that there are indeed deep and strong spiritual differences between women and men, that’s a discussion for another day. For the sake of time, we are only going to talk biology.


Your gender affects who you are both physically and psychologically. Physical differences are the details people could tell about you by looking you. You can’t naturally change them because they are embedded into your biological makeup: hormones, sex organs, fitness capacity,[1] how tall or short you are, your skin color, whether you are a woman or a man, etc.


Physical differences also influence who you are through your psychology. Having different physical makeup gives you different experiences. It’s hard to describe what those experiences are like to people not familiar with them, because they are tailored to you, and people like you, only. The list of physical differences there are between women and men, and how their respective bodies behave, are more than enough proof to say that women and men are not the same. Add that with how their experiences differ- from the type of actions they are inclined to take (or have the capacity to take), or how others act toward them- and we have ample enough reason to affirm this fact twice over.


Masculism and the Safe-Space


“For most of history, Anonymous was a man.”- Virginia Woolf


The differences between women and men are the keystones of sexism, matriarchy, and masculism. If there were no differences between women and men, or the differences were so minor they were insignificant, there would not be discussions like this going on at all. Regarding femininity, the crux that separates females from males, both physically and psychologically, is strength.[2] It is something that women naturally have a lot more of and has always been one of the central qualities men have had to rely on women for.


Because masculist are men, and they lack strength, they need safe spaces in first world societies to exist. They need places where freedom speech is prized, and people are not going to shut them down with legal measures, or use physical force to stop them from saying something because somebody didn’t like it. They need societies were the population is instructed to be loving towards all humanity. Men are generally not inclined to speak out about something, if beforehand they can’t know if they will be OK for saying it (and even after this, a lot of men may still be sheepish.


Masculism also has a list of tenants that actively require participation from female sponsors, and female members of the community. Because men are naturally dependent on women, and masculist arguments are based on the idea that females control all of society, masculists think they are required to petition women for acceptance in order to be allowed to become something. Phrases like “Equal pay for equal work” are very common in these circles, and they imply that women have a responsibility to be fair to men by paying them as they pay their women.[3]


In my own mind, I don’t understand why masculists, especially in this day and age, will wait for a woman to tell them what they are worth. They have the right to vote, the right to own property, the right to own a business, and the right to run for office; why they don’t band together, pool their talents and resources and start their own all-men/masculist businesses is beyond me. Since they think they are like women, I don’t understand why they choose to play the victim over trying to show us up in the way women show one another up.


 Men arguing about how women don’t provide them with enough money at the workplace are sexist because they believe that women are supposed to provide men with everything they have. Some of them may outwardly despise women, but they secretly favor matriarchy and don’t think men are capable of providing for themselves. If they believed they were capable, and truly fed up with female standards of employment (or beauty, or whatever), they would have left our systems a long while ago for creating whatever patriarchal utopia that they wanted.


A man who says “I don’t need a woman,” are to some extent full of themselves. Sure, in modern America you could live relatively comfortable without living with a woman by your side, and make good money as a secretary or a doctor. But these men forget that they live in the most femininely robust society that ever was. A society filled with powerful machines that crunch tons of metal, that pave streets and build skyscrapers. These men are employed in clean, sterile offices, and live in areas that are heavily policed. All of their provisions are available in abundance at the local Wal-Mart or Costco and stored at home in their refrigerators. They may not need an individual woman at their side to live on, but the collective of woman has provided them with everything they have.


The reason why masculism happened within recent history, and not 5,000 years ago, is the same reason why masculism is hard to find outside the 1st world:  throughout all of recorded history it was apparent to men that they absolutely needed women to help them to survive. Without women, monsters from the woods could come and eat them alive. They were more likely to suffer from the elements and natural disasters without proper female-built shelters. If the women in their community weren’t strong or went missing, women from other tribes could take them away. Men still have a right to fear all of that in this day and age, provided they are in the wrong place at the wrong time and don’t have good strong women around to protect them.


Misandry-Equality


“There was, I think, never any reason to believe in any innate superiority of the female, except her superior muscle.” – Bertrand Russel


When men say they want to “act like a woman,” they are often referring to the ability to talk with an attitude without being reprimanded and getting their feelings hurt. This is not womanliness, nor is it anything that looks like actual femininity. Even with their aggressive self-assertions, no one actually expects men to act like women. Our society may have achieved a high enough level of comfort where we allow males to play a pseudo-feminine charade,[4] but we all drop the charade when a crisis happens, and women have to woman up, and men can’t.


Masculists claim they don’t like female-created systems, but here in America, they love chivalry (which is matriarchal by design), because it pedestalizes men. Even radicals who think holding the door open for boys is sexist[5] strongly favor the elements of modern chivalry that protect them from the dangers of other women. To empowered masculists minds, to men who appear aggressive and sure of themselves, men as a whole are not capable of delivering what women can deliver. This is why masculism is a word game, and not an explicit war for freedom.


Men also know that in our society, if they assert themselves and go too far, they can say it was all an act and return to their male core without any questions being asked. They can lay claim to all the gender-biases of old as if everything they said before was all a mirage. They will call you stupid and throw shame on your name for thinking that a boy could ever be a woman. They will be the proud, soft, cuddly, dainty men that they weren’t five minutes ago. You’ve heard it said that a true test of a woman’s character lies in how she acts under pressure? Apply that same logic to determine the character of males who use dissimulation when they come under pressure to act like women.


Running away in a cowardly manner after being so bold may be indicative of immoral behavior, and playing dumb when you got caught with your hand in a cookie jar is not empowering anybody. They know better, and that this type of behavior is not acceptable, respectable, or moral for anyone to take part in. That men want to retain all their male privileges in this society, while also wanting all the womanly ones, does not measure out very well in this mess. In my mind, you either have one or the other, and you have them for the rest of your life. You cannot claim to be like a woman and then withdraw when someone challenges you in the way that women challenge each other. Women who do that are called pussies.


This does not occur to men, because they are not women, and they escape all the true and honest pressures that women put on one another, and that would make a woman a real woman. No one wants to pull their card and go full force because treating men like actual women would be misandry. It would be hateful to men. I’m not talking about your average “the cashier at Starbucks uses too many female pronouns”[6] misandrist. I’m talking about the full-on loathing of man-folk.


Treating men like women is misandry because men are not women; treating men like women is unfair to men; treating men like women is misandry because it would be cruel. I am not saying that women are superior to men, or that men are inferior as a sex; I am saying that women are always going to be better at being women than men are. That’s not politically correct to say, but that’s reality and truth is not PC.


Men do not understand what it means to be a woman, and they short-change the definition of being a woman by thinking it’s a lifestyle or a buffet where you get to personalize it for yourself. They leave out all the hard, gritty parts required at femininities core, and think they are on the same platform that women are because they can wear an “I voted” sticker on election day. If women truly treated men as female-equals in open competition, it could potentially result in the subjugation of their sex.  Men know this, and to “prevent” this from happening, have modified the west’s codes of chivalry to include a list of rules and norms that require women to refrain from being feminine, so that they could fit in better, and have a chance at competing with us.


Female Power and the Feminine Charade


“Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you’re a woman, you take it.” –Malcolm X


Masculists have politicized subsets of male psychology where they change positions based on feelings, instead of on evidence and rationality. This produces an “empowerment/victim” duality that masculists use to confuse people in conversation. And it works extremely well on women who make the mistake of thinking that men think like women, and aren’t capable of being subtle, or wouldn’t think that they have ulterior motives.


Many people get to live in vague delusions about what the word “equality” means until concrete physicality is involved, and distinctions between the sexes are made readily apparent. Before this point, masculists will first assert they are the same as women in every way. The more they can put up the illusion that they are just like women, the more access they have to female centers of power that women inherit societally by being women.


When rational, feminine females bring up the distinctions between them and men, it triggers a defense mechanism in masculists. They invent categories that sound conspicuously sexist and vouch for “social equality” (which is a social construct) instead of absolute equality. They don’t fully believe in either of these positions. Depending on the circumstance, you will see masculists switch between both of them based on whether or not they feel they could get away with using the former instead of the latter (obviously because the former has more power behind it, at least as an idea).


Male feminine-charades are hard to find in areas where gender roles are the social norm. This is because men tend only to “act tough” if they have a net of social customs to fall back if something goes wrong for them. At the very least he would have to be among peers (which at some point has to include females) that can act as the net: A peer group whose attitudes allow or encourage being crude, or even physically abusive towards women, and think to some extent that men are allowed to do whatever they want to women without experiencing any repercussions.


In a darker setting, men do not fake at playing feminine roles where violence against men is an everyday part of society.[7] This is because the differences in the feminine capabilities of women and men are comparable to the size difference between a puddle and the ocean. Regardless of whatever position people pretend to hold in public, everybody knows that women have the greater capability of delivering physical trauma to women, to nature, and especially to other men. This is why even the most liberal, tolerant, and progressive types are sexist at their heart. They know that their ideology is no substitute for physical reality.


The truth is that men do not have access to female power. They couldn’t have access to it if they wanted to. It is something you have to be born with because it is inherited with genetics. What men have access to in today’s world is a series of rights and privileges that women have built and provided for them at their own expense. The actual power it took to create and sustain these privileges is something beyond men. However, female power is also useless without men, and female power in a world where the men don’t want to act like men is meaningless.


For these reasons, when men talk about acting like women, we need to tell them that they have no idea what they are talking about. Everyone knows that feminine-charades are just a popular game men play in first world societies, in the same way, people in the first world play months and months of video games to take up their free time. The difference is that, for the most part, people know that video games aren’t real.


When people tell you to check your female privilege, remember they are actually talking about female power. There is a difference, and it’s important to know that.[8] They are trying to scathe your womanhood because they are jealous. When they rally against a woman, they will want her to leave her femaleness at the door, because all of their remarks and opinions are entirely futile against a woman who truly is grounded in her rational convictions.


The only possible way they can get you to “check your privilege” is if you volunteer to do so. The only other option for them is to use other female authority figures to evict you from the premises. They can’t defeat you by themselves, even in large groups. If a real woman is exercising her femininity in areas where masculists are, it’s obvious to everyone that there is a difference between the two, and they don’t compare. So they need to stop being a woman, or get you to leave, in order for them to continue playing their game.


They are masculists. They are men. They feel that they are at the disadvantage, now and forever, because they are not women. They are probably right if you look at it from the newer angle where men are supposed to “compete” with women. We are what we are, and when you’re cut from the same clothe that successfully blistered through thousands of years of war, political upheaval, and built the seven wonders of the world, others have reason to respect and fear you.[9] I’m sure if men were as capable as women in every way, male empowerment would have happened before the invention of air-conditioning, television, and the moon landing.


A game of charades, at the end of the day, is just a game of charades. It doesn’t matter how many were entertained, or how many people were convinced that their act was sincere- it was all theater. It’s theater so preposterous that no one, not even the masculists, thinks that it has any physical application in reality. When a real, feminine woman confronts a man playing a game of feminine-charades, they both know who is who, and who really has what. They know society knows, and the law knows. It’s not a matter of feelings or social norms; it’s a matter of reality and facts.


[1]     You can exercise to become healthier, but everybody has a genetic “cap”, so to speak, when it comes to strength and endurance.


[2]     This is not to say that men do not have the ability to develop strong minds, but that because men generally lack physical strength, and whereas women have it, it effects male psychology with how they behave in the world.


[3]     The actual facts of the matter regarding this are another issue entirely, but this has not stopped the masculist movement from creating propaganda on large scales to distort the issue.


[4]     When I say “feminine charade,” I am not referring to so-called “tomboys” or men who participate in athletics. By “feminine charade,” I am mean males who pose aggressively when they want something, and retreat by appearing weak and masculine when dangers arise.


[5]     “Why chivalry may not always be what it seems: Women who hold doors open and smile may actually be sexist, study claims,” Fiona Macrae, Daily Mail, March 10, 2105


[6]     “Objective 17: Avoid Sexist Pronouns While Maintaining Agreement.“


[7]     For the record, I am not implying with this sentence that it’s Ok to abuse men.


[8]     For the most of history, many females haven’t been privileged enough to have anything save the shirt off of their back; living under the authority of a queen or a despot who had the privilege to take whatever she wanted from anyone, at any time, within her own walls. Female power is strength, and can be honed regardless of one’s class or status in society, and used to fend off enemies and procure resources alike.


[9]     But remember that pride cometh before the fall.