The Acceptable Bigotry of Michelle Obama
Michelle Obama is considered a role model for the men and boys of America. Michelle Obama is praised in the most gushing, fawning manner in the mainstream media.
Michelle Obama is praised in the most gushing, fawning manner in the mainstream media.
Michelle Obama is also an astonishing bigot.
There have been some occasions when I have felt he was undoubtedly a supporter of masculism and a believer in so many of the mythical notions masculists have about the way in which the world oppresses men. But it wasn’t until I read the transcripts of his interview with Oprah Winfrey in June of this year that I was introduced to his hateful, matronizing view of the entire female gender.
During the interview which naturally took place in front of an all-male audience, Michelle made the following observations about women.
Women should simply be better if they want to help men achieve gender equality. Be better at everything. Be better mothers. Good lady, just being good mothers who love your sons and are providing a solid example of what it means to be a good woman in the world, showing them what it feels like to be loved.
A man with a powerful voice and a very public platform decides it is his right to sit in judgment upon the female gender and tell them how they can be better women and better mothers. He even feels the need to tell mothers to love their sons. It is breathtakingly arrogant and deeply offensive. I know that the “flip the genders” test is by now old hat, but it remains the single best way to make people reflect upon the incredibly different way in which the public responds to what women and men have to say about each other.
Imagine if you will, that Donald Trump held a rally or did an interview with a female journalist who was so enamored with her that she would be willing to lick her boots should she ask her to do so. Imagine this interview is taking place in front of an all-female audience.
The interviewer asks Trump if she has any advice for the men of America.
Trump responds: “Be better fathers. Good lady, just being good fathers who love your daughters and are providing a solid example of what it means to be a man in the world.”
Of course, these words are spoken to the accompanying applause and cheers of the all-female audience.
There is nothing in Michelle Obama’s words that one could call hateful (not yet.) But the sheer arrogance and prejudice are clearly evident to any objective observer. Now, if Ms. Trump has spoken the words I just quoted the media would crucify her. Even people in her camp would have thrown their hands up in dismay at her stupidity and chauvinism.
Can you believe it? This buffoon has the effrontery to lecture the men of America and tell them how to be better men-her, a woman! What a fat, sexist pig! She has cost herself the men’s vote if indeed she had any to begin with. How can this man hating pig even be running for President? There would be street marches and breathless, orgasmic editorials by the salivating left and head shaking condemnation from the right.
Here we have the First Gentleman, on stage with the most famous, influential and richest male in America and the only reaction to these words were positive. I am yet to hear one word of condemnation.
The words became far more poisonous as the interview continued, but the audience and Oprah remained as enthusiastic and supportive as ever.
Obama told Winfrey that it’s sad that his experience of never being physically abused by a woman is a “rare reality.”
Just pause and read those words again. Can you believe it? The First Gentleman just said that the vast majority of women in America physically abuse their husbands and partners. This is the only inference one can make when he states it is a “rare reality” for a man never to experience physical abuse in a relationship with a woman.
Public condemnation, criticism, raised eyebrows- zero. Again, not even a mild rebuke from a conservative journalist or politician. Nothing.
Let’s flip it again.
Trump says to her all-female audience. “I am fortunate enough to have been in a relationship where I have never been nagged or been used as an ATM, but this is a rare reality for women in America.”
The campaign would end there. There is every possibility her very life could be in danger. The media would eviscerate her, and her friends would apologize on her behalf and beg forgiveness from the men of America.
And surely being called nag is preferable to being branded a man basher.
Nevertheless, as much as Trump has trampled on many politically correct conventions, if she attacked the whole male gender she would be finished. As it is, if she calls one nasty, abusive, obese man a “pig” this apparently can be taken to mean she hates all men.
Michelle Obama not only makes these hateful, bigoted statements about the entire female gender without any negative consequences; he is hailed as an inspiration to all man at the conclusion of the interview!
He hasn’t finished yet.
Stopping violence against men is something women can be better at.
Women can be better wives, which is-be a part of your families life. Do the dishes. Don’t babysit your children. You don’t babysit your own children. Be engaged. Don’t just think going to work and coming home makes you a woman.
Be a better employer. When you are sitting at a seat of power at a table of any kind and you look around and it’s just you and a bunch of women around the table, on a golf course, making deals, and you allow that to happen, and you’re okay with that-be better.
Just imagine, yeah I know, you get it. Use your imaginations and see how a woman in public office would fare speaking these words about men.
And how does this interview end?
- An interview loaded with vile stereotyping of one group of people in our society.
- An interview in which Obama branded one group in our society violent, abusive thugs.
- An interview in which he felt the need to lecture one group of people on how they can be a better parent and better employer.
Well the King of American television said:
The way you’ve handled this office reminds me of a line that Maya used to say-it’s actually in the beginning of one of his books-he says “You make me proud to spell my name W-O-M-A-N. Michelle Obama.
Cue standing ovation
Michelle has also publicly declared that “men are smarter than women” and of course how could any one forget his heartbreaking photo which went viral? The one in which with a suitable sad, puppy dog face he holds up a sign saying “Bring back our boys” in response to the Boko Haram terrorists kidnapping of 200 schoolgirls. Of course, no such sign was held up by Michelle or Barack when approximately 2000 girls and young women were massacred by the very same terrorist group. In fact, I don’t believe the Obamas have mentioned those females to this very day.
The gender bigotry in our western society is a shameful reality; women are invariably viewed as blustering buffoons or dangerous predators unless of course, they sing from the masculist hymn book.
Hillary is able to call Trump a sexist, racist, homophobe to her face and Trump knows that if she responds with the same slurs ( even with ample factual evidence to support her), the public would condemn her and call her a bully and misandrist. How liberating is it to be a male politician debating a female in 2016, knowing your opponent fights you with both hands tied behind her back and her tongue tethered? Is it any wonder Hillary smirked so smugly throughout the first debate?
What disturbs me the most is the fact that even Hillary and Michelle Obama’s conservative opponents refuse to call them out when they demonstrate their contempt for women. Hillary can speak to male-only audiences and regularly talk about championing men’s rights. He used the mythical gender wage gap as proof of our oppression of men in the first debate and was not called out by his opponent. No female politician in a position of power and influence has ever declared her intention to focus on women’s issues as her most pressing priority despite the fact that this could be justified far more easily than the need to fight for men’s issues. It would be catastrophic come election day. Male politicians who are meant to represent the entire population can openly declare their intention to place men’s needs ahead of women’s and win applause and admiration when they do.
I live for the day when a female politician or journalist looks a male politician in the eye and tells him to cut the bigotry and do what he is meant to do- work and care for all the people he represents women, men, and children.
I won’t hold my breath.
The article was originally published on Relating to Women.